Each of us has a giver side that is concerned about the happiness of others. Your giver is unselfish, respectful, tenderhearted, and full of blessing. When dating, your giver side makes huge deposits into your partner’s “love bank.” To keep a spouse romantically attracted to you for life, you have to continually fill their love bank. Bad habits make a withdrawal from your partner’s love bank. In time, this account can become empty, or even worse, in the red. When this happens, he/she feels repulsion instead of attraction. When a person’s account is in the red and they feel trapped in the marriage, all the bad habits of the spouse drain him/her of love and make them feel abused. Your taker side is that part of you that makes you do whatever is necessary to be happy. When your love bank is overdrawn, you begin to justify yourself and become demanding, disrespectful, and angry. Intimacy results when your giver is in charge. Conflict results when your taker feels that his/her needs are not being met or is upset by abusive behaviors or bad habits. Resignation results when your taker convinces you that the situation has become hopeless.